Zen and the Art of Coping With Alzheimer’s
Apr 14th, 2008 by Jeannie
This excerpt was taken from the April 14, 2008, Health Section of the New York Times.
“[Alzheimer’s Disease…..] Meanwhile, the numbers are staggering: 4.5 million people in the United States have Alzheimer’s, 1 in 10 over 65 and nearly half of those over 85. Taking care of them costs $100 billion a year, and the number of patients is expected to reach 11 million to 16 million by 2050. Experts say the disease will swamp the health system.
It’s already swamping millions of families, who suffer the anguish of seeing a loved one’s mind and personality disintegrate, and who struggle with caregiving and try to postpone the wrenching decision about whether they can keep the patient at home as helplessness increases, incontinence sets in and things are only going to get worse.”
…….The person with dementia has been transported into a strange, confusing new world and the best other people can do is to try to imagine the view from there and get with the program.”
I recommend that you save your sanity and avoid arguments and constantly correcting your loved one. They are not doing this on purpose. Don’t beat yourself up trying to correct them; it will only frustrate both of you. Instead, focus on their fear/concern and then try to alleviate it and redirect them. Continually correcting them only makes both of you feel worse.
If you are having difficulty doing this, consider consulting with a professional for specific recommendations and coaching regarding your situation.
